Bodyworker & Intimacy Coach
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One of the most primal protective programmes running in our body and mind is known as the ‘startle response’. This reflex bypasses higher brain functions and jolts the body into immediate contraction and withdrawal. You may not even be aware of this deeply wired response to danger, but it’s likely it’s contributing to your difficulty in enjoying sex, intimacy and pleasure.
I work with many men, and their partners, each year who have been through prostate cancer. Their questions around how prostate removal affects intimacy generally focus on the impact on their erections, what orgasm will feel like, and whether anal penetration is still OK. In this blog article I’ll cover all three and share my experiences as an intimate bodyworker.
Do you experience feelings of shyness, shame, or anxiety when getting close to someone for the first time? Maybe you’re uncertain about how to enjoy sex and ensure your partner’s pleasure as well. It could be that negative thoughts about your body hold you back from progressing with a new partner, causing worries about being naked, intimate, and engaging in sexual activity.
What you’re receiving is not what you really want…Firstly, do you know what you really want? Secondly, how do you communicate that in a loving and effective way to your partner?
Squeezing and clenching instead of relaxing and letting go…As a bodyworker and masseuse specialising in intimate and sensual touch, I have seen that pretty much, without fail, every person that I’ve worked with who is experiencing some level of anorgasmia has chronic tension patterns in their body.
The buzz could be killing your buzz… This is a question that I get asked by a lot of female clients. It was also a personal issue for me until about 10 years ago: I could reach orgasm when I was masturbating, but when I was with a partner I just didn’t…get there.
Vaginismus causes painful penetration during sex. Intimate genital massage is a way to help your body relax and be able to enjoy the sex life you want!
Erectile dysfunction is a common sexual issue. A major contributing factor that I see in male clients is chronic tension and lack of mobility. Intimate massage can make a big difference.
I have tried various things over the years to try and reduce the effect of endometriosis on my body and my life. The first major improvements I experienced were through changes in my diet. I’m also going to talk in this blog about how abdominal and genital massage – from trained practitioners and my own hands – have further aided me in maintaining a relatively pain-free relationship with my womb and my menstrual cycle.
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common issues that my male clients bring to sessions. It’s often also expressed as ‘wanting to delay ejaculation’ or ‘a desire to have more choice around the ejaculatory response’. To give you a starting point, here is my guide to working with PE.