Whether you’re single & dating, have been in a relationship for 5 minutes, 5 years or 5 decades, you’ve probably got some fairly ingrained ‘go to’ patterns for sex and intimacy: tried and tested ways of connecting that you feel comfortable with or that you know both you and your partner enjoy. When you want to have better sex, where do you start?
Breath is the foundation of a healthy, embodied, self-regulating state. Conscious connection to the breath (noticing howyou are breathing and where you are breathing in your body) is like an automatic switch for the nervous system to relax and slow down.
Do you find it difficult to vocalise your pleasure? Are your ‘sex sounds’ short, breathless and strained, or perhaps just non-existent? Many people learned to masturbate silently – particularly if you lacked privacy or were raised in a home that viewed sex or masturbation as bad or wrong. This unconscious conditioning around sex sometimes means that, as adults, it’s difficult to relax and explore pleasure and affection in an open and vocal way.