Remember when you were little and you shoved a small wad of paper up your nose and then had to go to A&E to get it removed? No? Just me then… Well, there is a risk of the ‘adult’ version of this happening to you if you start experimenting with putting things in your arse. Unlike the vagina where there isn’t much room for something to get lost, your anal sphincter muscles can suck up small items and they can become lodged in your colon. That’s why the best approach is to start exploring with your own fingers. If you do move on to using toys just make sure that they are arse-specific. Generally, anything that is designed to go in your arse will have a handle, or a flared base for easy removal. Buying from a website like lovehoney.co.uk or uberkinky.co.uk or prowler.co.uk makes things simple as everything is categorised for you.
The tissues in the lining of your rectum are very delicate and can be really uncomfortable if scratched, abraded or torn. So this is why I advise you to use lots, and lots of lube or oil for anal massage – do not scrimp on the lube! It’s also a good idea to either a) trim and file your nails, or b) purchase some latex free nitrile gloves (latex-free means you can use oil with them).
On the whole, if you follow these two rules and always go slowly, breathe and relax then there is no danger involved.